Truly supportive relationships bring
out the best in us, and creates a "tribe" of supportive
people around you is the key to healing mood disorders,
emotional problems and childhood trauma.
So how do you know whether your
connections to others are healing, those--based on your real
emotional needs--or problematic, reflecting your difficult
or abusive childhood?
Eight Danger Signs.
You feel criticized or whatever
you do for the other person, it's never enough.
You argue about things that don't
You don't share the same worldview
or belief system.
You feel guilty a lot of the time.
You feel afraid to ask for what
you really want.
You quarrel over who does what.
Nothing seems to change, even
after you've talked about issues.
You feel pessimistic or hopeless
about you and/or the relationship.
If some or all of the above ring true
to you, it's time to give your relationships a makeover.
Five Healing Actions.
Never criticize or accept
criticism. There is no such thing as "constructive
criticism:" Like abuse, criticism is always about power.
Instead of talking about what one
of you did wrong, work out concretely what you need the
other person to do or not to do. Be sure not to use
generalizations like "I need you to love me," but
specific actions such as "I need you to hug me when I
come home." Stated in this way, your needs help to set
boundaries and, if agreed to, become the "rules" of the
Talk together often about your
beliefs and goals and find out what you have in common.
Assign each of you clear roles and
be very specific about who does what when.
Develop a set of bonding rituals
that are particular to the relationship.
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